Morning routines can be hard to set and follow when you’re a mom, however, I feel like they are the only way to successfully get out of the house alive. For years I’ve just ignored setting and following a morning routine because I didn’t think what I was doing was wrong. That was until my first child started school.
When my daughter started getting old enough that she was “too big” for me to dress and wanted to be independent is when everything changed for us. She suddenly wanted to do everything on her own but she did it at the speed of a sloth. This bothered me big time.
I’m the type of person that gets things done right away once I put my mind to it. So when she would insist on doing things herself only to take an hour to eat one pop tart, I would lose my mind. I’ve been open about the fact that I have little patience. That’s with anything in life really. I’m not sure why I’m such an impatient person, but if I don’t do things right away they never get done so waiting for me is torture.
My Typical Morning Routine Before
So my typical morning routine before I committed went something like this…
Get up at 6 AM and make coffee. Sit on my phone and scroll through emails or social media until 6:30 AM while intermittently telling my child to go get her clothes on, get her shoes, feed her kitty, etc. By 6:45 I was doing my 10-minute beauty routine and finishing getting dressed. 7 AM rolled around and my patience is thinning with my child and I start to get short with her. I make my lunch and gather my things. By 7:15 she’s still not ready and I’m usually angry by this point. This entire morning routine is also wrapped up with another child that I have to get dressed and ready to go as well. By 7:25 AM I’m walking out of the door and telling my oldest if she doesn’t get in the car now she will be left behind.
Sounds stressful, huh? Well, that’s because it was. I have tried many things for her including doing everything for her. However, I came to the realization that I was raising an entitled child that expected me to do everything for her. No way was I going to continue this trend. So I started including her in my morning routine. When I brushed my hair I would encourage her to do the same. I even tried timers and making it a competition. Nothing worked.
This Doesn’t Work Long-Term
This stressful routine doesn’t breed good days or even days set off on the right path. This routine was making me stressed and would set my day off in a bad mood daily. It was my fault and I should have taken control of this a lot sooner. However, because of my lack of energy and willpower, I let it go on for far too long.
What We Do Now
To get past the unhealthy and stressful morning routine where I felt nothing but angry and rushed we set up a new scheduled. A while back I wrote about the beauty of a bedtime routine. We adapted our pre-bedtime hour to prepare for the night before. Since I have learned throughout the last couple years that my daughter doesn’t like doing things alone I have since started making it a joint venture.
In the evenings I have established our routine and we have a checklist that combines evening and morning activities. We use this checklist to check off things as we go and it makes it more fun for my daughter. She really enjoys writing down her to-dos then checking them off. This has allowed me to get both of my daughters ready and in bed by their 8 pm bedtime.Those 2 hours of quiet before we go to bed is so important for me to knock off my own to-do list, focus on self-care or my marriage.
What Happened When We Made The Switch
To make a change like this has taken a lot of determination and a change in my habits. I have had to actually make a routine and stick to it. It’s taken a lot of mental willpower to transition to this. However, I have seen a huge attitude adjustment in not only my daughter but myself as well. I look forward to our “bedtime hour” and we choose together the activities to do after our routine is complete.
This didn’t happen overnight and it will certainly take some tweaks along the way as both of our girls get older and take on more responsibility. However, for now, we will enjoy our routine together.
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